Dear Friends,

My friend Cindy, is a Dating Coach with Relationship Studio and she was sharing her latest event with me! Do take sometime to read and pounder over this meaningful article beautifully written by her.

Love is blind. I am sure many would have agreed. Having coached many singles now, I realized that many are overly fixated on the superficial outward appearance and often forget what is more important - the heart, personality and character.

This inspiration came about when I was having a team bonding dinner with my Wedding Planning team from Wedding Angels. In the midst of being served by a specially trained visually impaired server, he share his love story with his wife. What was preconceived as a potentially boring 2.5 hours dinner with no visual stimulation and no mobile phones, now became an inspiring and life transforming experience.

In this modern society, we rely too much on our eyes to pre-judge whether someone is worthy of our love, time and effort. Many individuals are to bothered by the achievements and outward appearance of potential partner that they forget to go back to the basics – the heart, personality and character, which is what really matters I would like to bring the singles back to what is most fundamental – Love is blind, and we mean it. Nox – Dine in the Dark , a pitch-dark dining room restaurant served by the visually impaired waiters and world-class chefs, provides a great environment to run this event. For the first time ever in Singapore, 12 eligible individuals will be put together in this miracle ground for a 2.5 hours lunch. No lights, no mobile phones, no distraction. Individuals will not get to see how each other look until the meal is over for the moment of truth!

Why can pre-judgment be dangerous?

1. You may miss out on a potential “Mr./Ms. Right”

Yes I know, time is limited and it is our tendency not to waste time on someone when you do not feel a 100% YES in your heart when it comes to looks. However, I would like to plead with the singles to understand that: it only takes $1000 and 1 week for someone change on the outside. Moreover, man increase in their charm as they age. On the contrary, what is going to happen if you are 100% pleased with the outward but he/she has major flaws which needs fine tuning? Will $1000 and 1 week do the job? I rather you choose to revamp the potential partner on the former aspects than to EXPECT a change on the latter, because some internal issues can be rather permanent and hard to change. You may not even get to see a change in this lifetime, do bear that in mind.

2. You are actually being very shallow

As much as you would like others to give you a “chance”, why not follow the Golden Rule. Do unto others what you would like others to do unto you. Your acceptance for someone’s vulnerability also opens a way for him/her to accept yours. When you are not Angelina Jolie, please do not expect a Brad Pitt material guy to go for you. I have hosted so many speed dating events whereby girls are all crowding around the most handsome guy in the room. I am not sure if you would like your man to always receive this kind of attention when you are dating him, or if you think you can “keep” him with your level of charm. Life can be very challenging thereafter, have you thought objectively about it? Do you see yourself turning into a jealous freak, having to manage all these “attention” and feel insecure about it? In any case, go for someone who want you and will reciprocate the way you do. What’s most important is inside. Looks fade with time, but character doesn’t. Someone once told me, when you are married to someone, you are married to his CHARACTER, not his LOOKS. So true.

Co-hosting with the previous facilitator of “Dialogue in the Dark” and current server at NOX – Dine in the Dark, we are going to make “Dating in the Dark” a success. Just as “Dialogue in the Dark” provides an uninhibited environment for expression, “Dating in the Dark” aims to provide individuals with the same environment for introspection, healing, expression, and most importantly “see” from the heart.

My personal views:

When I first saw this dating event, I told Casper, “If they organise one for married couples I will definitely sign up.” I find it pretty meaningful.

We often live to impress people, we have to dress nice, and we always need to present ourselves nicely however during this event you can totally let go of yourself and be YOURSELVES! No one can judge you!

You can go makeup-less, wear slippers, t-shirt etc and your date will not know. But of course it’s a fine-dining session probably you can dress up a little. But I believe because you can’t see your date and your date cant see you probably you will share more things with him/her.

I will recommend this to all my single friend out there. Details @ below!